How Failure Can Help You Live a Better Life

My guess is that most people, including you, have failed at something at least once in their life.
So, more than likely, we’ve all experienced failure.
But have you ever wondered why failure is so hard to deal with?
Take a minute and answer these questions.
  • Is failure so hard on you because it is so deeply attached to your identity?
  • Did you automatically think what other people will think about you now?
  • Is it because what you failed at caused you to lose some things that gave you meaning?

If you answered yes to any of these questions then I think this was a huge win and not a failure.

Yes, that is what I meant to write.

How Failure Can Help You Live a Better Life

Failures can be a blessing in disguise.
The reason I believe these events are a win is because as a Christian you don’t need your identity tied to anything that you can lose or fail at.

 As a Christian, your identity should be found in Christ.

Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:17, “ if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”

When you became a new creation you became a Child of the King, joint heir with Christ, a citizen of heaven, forgiven, loved by God.
This is where your identity should be found.

Identity and your treasure

What gives you identity and what you treasure go hand in hand.
If you have failed at something that distracted you from your true identity, then you should consider this a blessing from God because He doesn’t want you to waste your life on things that will rust and will be here today and gone tomorrow.

Jesus tells is in Matthew 6:19-21, “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal,  but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Your heart follows your treasure. And God wants you to treasure what is ultimate – the Trinity (God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit).

So how can you tell if this is the case in your situation?

Along with the questions at the beginning, here are a few questions to ask and see if you have treasured something more than God and allowed it to become part of your identity.
  • Has this failure affected your relationship with God?
  • Has this failure affected how you introduce yourself? I say this because how we introduce ourselves is normally closely tied to our identity – Dr., Pastor, Executive, Author, so and so’s husband or wife, etc.
  • Has this failure made you question your significance and value?
  • Has this failure caused you to be depressed?

I am not saying that failure should be easy and that it shouldn’t faze you. But failure can be something good which you can learn and grow from. As well as a good opportunity to do a gut check on your spiritual life.