How to find True Love!
I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships. I think it has to do with the fact that this is national marriage week (http://www.nationalmarriageweekusa.org), valentine’s day, and because I’m married. As I’ve been thinking about this topic I came across some research (Joe Carter 9 Things you should know about marriage in America) that talked about the fact that more and more people are choosing unmarried cohabitation (living together, shacking up…) and waiting longer to get married. Also in the same research it talked about the fact that marriage rate in america has dropped to about 30%.
So the question then, is why is this happening? I believe that one of the major factors is that people value their relationships, namely who they marry, so much that they don’t want to take any risks. They’ve probably heard someone tell their story of how they felt like they married the wrong person. Or they’ve watched a movie that shows the perfectly compatible couple. And they think, I don’t want to mess my chance up. So with that in mind they choose to postpone marriage in order to find “the right one”.
The only argument, however, that I have with this idea is that if this were true than that would mean your decision could have the potential to cause ripple effect of relationship disasters!!! Think about it. If what you believe is true, then if you marry the “wrong person”, then you just took someone’s “right person” and the domino begins to have its effect on every other relationship around you. And personally I don’t think any of us have that much power, influence, or enough cupid arrows!
So in light of this, I would like to offer some insight to this issue from God’s perspective based on a passage in the Bible (Ephesians 5).
Based on this passage I think God wants us to quit looking for the right person and start trying to become the right person. When God gives these commands to husbands and wives in this passage he’s directing them to look at themselves and do a self assessment not an assessment of the other person.
Is there a possibility of finding the right one, can a person possibly find their better half, and does true love really exist? The answer is YES, YES, and YES! The right one, our better half, and true love will come when we choose to become those things for the other person.