How to Be Unpopular in the People Pleaser World

I must confess that I am a people pleaser by nature.

When I think about doing something, it seems that the first thought that comes to mind is whether a certain person or certain people will approve of my decision.

Or better yet, will they be proud of me and give me an “attaboy”.

The problem with this is that it can be a slippery slope.

If you are not careful you can end up in a completely different place than you ever wanted to.

You can end up taking jobs, pursuing a certain lifestyle, moving to certain places, or making significant decisions based on their opinion.

This is not to say that you completely blow off any input you receive or that you shouldn’t seek counsel from people wiser than you.

The only approval that matters

The reality is that you will never be able to please everyone anyways.

There is one person you can please and it is actually the most important one.

Paul draws the line in Galatians 1:10, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Paul boldly and clearly affirms who’s approval matters.

There is no doubt in the reader’s mind or ours as to where Paul’s loyalty falls.

Who’s approval are you after

So who’s approval have you been striving for?

You need to answer this question.

It will determine where you end up days, weeks, months or even years from now.

Think about it.

  • What will you do if God calls you to missions but your parents don’t approve?
  • Will you choose to forsake the approval of those you respect most if God calls you to a different vocation?
  • Is their approval more important than God’s voice?

When only God’s approval matters

In Acts 21:12-14 we see Paul putting into action what he believes:

When we heard this, we and the people there pleaded with Paul not to go up to Jerusalem. Then Paul answered, “Why are you weeping and breaking my heart? I am ready not only to be bound, but also to die in Jerusalem for the name of the Lord Jesus.” When he would not be dissuaded, we gave up and said, “The Lord’s will be done.”

What would you have done in Paul’s’ situation?

 Would you have stayed because of the peer pressure?

I believe the world then and now is a difference place because Paul chose to please God over people.

Take a moment and think about all the influences in your life. Who’s voice is louder, theirs or God’s?

Don’t let the need to be a people pleaser keep you from making an impact.

Choose the approval of God instead of other people and leave the legacy you were meant to leave.

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