Ever worked with someone who didn’t really even want to be there?
They seemed to do the bare minimum, probably to not get fired.
All they did was talk about how it used to be at some other job.
Or maybe you’ve struggled to make decisions lately because you can’t quit thinking about what could have been.
Why Regret Should Be 1 of the 7 Deadly Sins
Luke 9:62 Jesus replied, “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.”
The image that comes through in Jesus’ parable is of someone who is half-hearted in their work. Someone who can’t commit to the work ahead of them because what they left still holds so much value. Regret can be a paralyzing feeling because you can’t get past the past.
Jesus says a person like this is not fit for service in His kingdom. And I don’t think that Jesus is saying that we should never feel regret. I believe Jesus is trying to bring to the surface what is most valuable to this person.
Living as if the best is yet to come
I don’t know that we can ever get away from feelings of regret and what if’s on this side of heaven. The difference is what happens when the thoughts of regret and what-ifs come at us. Do we sit there and linger and try to keep one eye on that while we push forward? Or do we quickly place our eyes on Jesus and see that He is more valuable than everything.
The way to move forward is to have something better ahead. If you know that what you are pursuing now is better than what you had to give up then the excitement of what is next makes you almost forget what is behind you.
How do you get over regret?
By keeping your eyes on what is ahead. See Jesus is way more than you will ever need. But you have to live that way. He is all you need but you won’t know it until you live like He’s all you got. If you keep living like you are missing out on something you will never experience the fullness of His presence.
You need to taste, feel, and hear
Only when you surrender to Him completely can you say with the Psalmist, Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him! (Psalm 34:8), and, How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! (Psalm 119:103), and, I will sing of the steadfast love of the Lord, forever; with my mouth, I will make known your faithfulness to all generations. (Psalm 89:1).
The way to defeat regret is to be able to talk about God with our senses – to taste, to feel, and to hear.
Paul said it best in Hebrews 12:1-2, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”
Your goal is not behind you. That’s regret. It’s in front of you and it’s Jesus.